[CBFF] Pacman suspended FOR THE SEASON; Henry gets 8

[mom2iancal]

Interesting that you think you would know how I would react.  I can tell you that IF my son were to committ a quadruple homicide, I might say that I have seen the good in him and I still love him...however, IF he did it then I'd want him in jail.  Really, a quadruple homicide is not a good comparison but I'll go with it since you are the one who brought it up.   He murders someone, then I'd wonder where I went wrong, I'd blame myself, I wouldn't like that he was in jail but I would NOT cry how it wasn't fair and he should be out because "deep down" he's a good boy.  Deep down that may be true, but on the surface he murdered someone...  Of course I would be upset, of course I would HATE that that is what my son had become...but I would want him to pay his debt to society.

My hope as a mom is to have the "deep down good boy"  instead be who he is as a whole.  My ds got in trouble at school a couple years ago for fighting.  He is not usually a fighter, but  he did it.  the principal called myself and the other mom to tell me what his punishment was and was apologetic about it.  I said "why are you apologizing?  IF he did this, then he needs to face the consequences.  He knows the rules and if he broke them, then he will learn there is a price to pay.  He will face consequences at home as well. "  The mom of the other kid called me, up in arms about it all.  both kids admitted that they were at fault...they were fighting over something really stupid like their place in line.  They had to miss recess the rest of that day and the following day, and they had to take one of the guidance counselors classes on getting along with others.  Seemed fine to me...the other mom was having a fit...much like mrs. jones, saying it wasn't fair, and wasn't I upset that they were being punished at school.  Ummmm NO, I'm not upset.  I'm upset that he broke the rules  and I'd be more upset if they didn't take it seriously.
 
I was brought up in a way that if you made a mistake and broke the rules, you served your time..."do the crime, do the time" so to speak.  In my own humble opinion, there are too many parents who try to coddle their children and make excuses when they screw up and cry how it "isn't fair to punish junior, he's a good boy deep down..."    I have daycare clients who don't have their kids face consequences when they make mistakes...well, I'm sorry how do they learn if they dont' have consequences.  What will they learn if they hit, pinch, bite, break things and never have a consequence...I'll tell you what they learn, they learn that hitting, pinching, biting and breaking things is how they can get their way and it doesn't matter because mommy and daddy won't punish me.  and, again in my opinion, that is part of the reason why teens and young people have so many problems....  "it isn't fair..." "don't punish my baby..."  my ass it isn't fair!  Maybe I'm just a bitch of a mother, but my kids will learn that if they committ a "quadruple homicide"....while I'll still love them because they are my kids...I'll be more then willing to send their christmas cards to them in prison... I won't be crying that it's "unfair" to put them in jail...I'll be crying along with the mother of the victim's who are crying "it's not fair" that thier children are dead.  IF I were Mrs. Jones, I would be crying with the mother of the bouncer that "it's unfair" that her child is crippled for life.  I would be livid that my child is blowing his chance at a wonderful life using the talent that God gave him and instead is wasting it away because he thinks he can do what he wants, when he wants with no consequences. 

THAT is how I would react...that is how I was raised to react and I know THAT is how my parents would have reacted if I'd grown up to be a thug like pacman jones.  


Teri




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----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Matt Langschwager" <matthewindc at yahoo.com>
To: <post at chicagobearsfanforum.com>
Sent: Wednesday, April 11, 2007 11:08 AM
Subject: Re: [CBFF] Pacman suspended FOR THE SEASON; Henry gets 8


> C'mon Teri, a mother's viewpoint is slightly skewed.  It's best just to ignore her.  And I'm sure that if one of your children is ever convicted in, oh say, a quadruple homocide, you'd be telling anyone within earshot that he's not a bad kid, I've seen the good in him that others can't seem to see, blah blah blah.
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> Matt
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> mom2iancal <senzigx4 at charter.net> wrote: In one article his mom talks about he isn't being treated fairly..."I just pray that this can be changed. This is not fair for him. It's just not fair."  Really, it's not fair for poor Pacman??  Give me a break, lady!!!  Is it fair to the bouncer who is now in a wheelchair for life because one of his thug friends decided to pull a gun!!??  Your kid is a thug and if he doesn't straighten his a## up he's going to be the one in a body bag or a life sentance in prison...  The woman needs to wake up and smell the coffee!!  
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